Comments on: “I will listen to your complaints twice.”

By: J. Money

J. Money — Thu, 19 Sep 2019 14:04:20 +0000

In reply to Taylor.

Complaints come with “ughs” and *sighs* and emotional changes in their voice, whereas observations are more like facts being said out loud :) Also – you only make observations *once*!

(Had to marinate on this for a good 20 mins btw…. such a good question – hadn’t ever thought about it before!)

By: Taylor

Taylor — Wed, 18 Sep 2019 17:16:23 +0000

What do you define as a complaint?? My husband and I have a difference of opinion of what’s complaining and what’s making an observation haha

By: Chickenwizard's DivBlog

Chickenwizard's DivBlog — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 19:37:32 +0000

In reply to J. Money. Brouillard was the original whiners' name..

By: J. Money

J. Money — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 11:37:27 +0000

In reply to Kevin Vesga. Yup - good catch!! Thank you!

By: J. Money

J. Money — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 11:25:39 +0000

In reply to Ed Fi. At least wallowing is quieter, haha...

By: J. Money

J. Money — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 11:25:08 +0000

In reply to Chickenwizard’s DivBlog.

Haha…

Was Brouillardi her last name or did y’all go French on it?

By: Kevin Vesga

Kevin Vesga — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 02:50:08 +0000

“You’ll be hard pressed to find someone worse off 10 or 20 years ago than they are now (and if so – they had some major changes in their life and are allowed to complain!!),”

Shouldn’t that say “better off 10 or 20 years ago”? You wouldn’t be complaining if you are better now than in the past.

By: Ed Fi

Ed Fi — Fri, 13 Sep 2019 02:12:46 +0000

I love this because it’s so solution focused. I may need to integrate this with my leadership team! I don’t mind complaints, but I can’t stand wallowing. Acknowledge challenges, then get about fixing them.

By: Chickenwizard's DivBlog

Chickenwizard's DivBlog — Thu, 12 Sep 2019 21:44:44 +0000

So true.
I had a friend in college that complained and whined about a girlfriend that left him for someone else and moved. Could not get over it the last 6 months of his senior year. Our friends named his behavior a disease – Brouillardian Syndrome.

A few months later when I graduated and leaving my g/f in school, she broke up with me for another student. I complained for about 3 days. One of my buddies stopped me and said, “Dude, you have Brouillardian Syndrome”…..

I immediately did a 180 with my attitude.

By: J. Money

J. Money — Thu, 12 Sep 2019 16:24:26 +0000

In reply to Molly.

Very true that some people drain you more than others…

I’ll try my best to just keep it in my head after I’ve said my peace, but you’re right it gets trickier when you’re an authoritative figure. Though at least you get to make the rules and the consequences! Then it’s up to them to listen or not ;)